*prince
of positive pop*
Despite having a devoted
following of "Claymates," "American Idol" runner-up
Clay Aiken has run into his fair share of critics and haters. But
building up a thick skin is something Aiken did long before fame,
and on Tuesday's "Dr. Phil" he'll reveal
"I was dubbed a loser throughout most of my childhood."
— Clay Aiken
his experiences with bullying
and share his advice with young people.
Aiken talked to the TV-show
host about how being bullied isn't the end of the world. "It
was a really tough time," he confessed to Dr. Phil. "Middle
school's really tough — I think everybody has trouble with
middle school. It's about finding out who you are and being happy
with who you are and being comfortable with who you are, because
everybody in middle school is confused."
In his book "Learning
to Sing," Aiken revealed his experience with being picked on
and the loneliness and isolation of not belonging while he was growing
up in Raleigh, North Carolina. He described what it was like getting
wedgies and being "dodge-ball bait."
"I was dubbed a loser
throughout most of my childhood," he wrote. "As a kid,
I was an insult magnet — a nerd who loved his grandparents,
who wore the wrong clothes, who liked the wrong things, who had
goofy hair and glasses, who didn't smoke or drink."
Coupled with the anguish
of an abusive, alcoholic father, his childhood was further troubled
by such ill treatment outside his home. "I went to grade school
and discovered a whole new form of cruelty: the heartlessness of
exclusion," he wrote.
His mother, Faye Parker,
told The Associated Press, "I don't know that he was bullied
so |
much
as he was just ignored. So I don't know. We'll have to hear more
about his story when he tells it on TV."
Aiken told Dr. Phil that
his experience shifted by the time he got to Raleigh's Leesville
High School: "It's about being comfortable with who you are,
and once ... I figured that out, you know, who cares what people
think about me? I know my parents love me, I have friends who love
me, I love myself. Once you have that and carry it with you, everybody
wants to know, 'What is it that he's got that I don't have?' because
everybody's insecure. They're picking on me because they don't have
anything about them that they could be proud of, so they've decided
to make themselves feel better."
Aha: so that's how he dealt
with Simon Cowell's snide comments.
This all seems appropriate
for the sensitive singer who covered "Bridge Over Troubled
Water" and, after he topped the albums chart with his Measure
of a Man debut in 2003, spent much of his efforts trying to help
others. Before his sudden stardom, he had earned his bachelor's
degree in special education from the University of North Carolina
and was a special-education teacher. His Bubel/ Aiken Foundation
assists the families of children with developmental disabilities,
particularly autism.
Aiken's recent work with
UNICEF is another example of how the compassionate pop star has
channeled his experience with bullying into good deeds. As a UNICEF
ambassador, he traveled to Indonesia's region of Aceh, which was
devastated by the tsunami disaster.
More traveling is in Aiken's
future, as the prince of positive pop will soon announce even more
dates for his summer tour — probably for July, according to
his rep. Before that, he'll head back to the studio to start working
on his next album in May. |